30th Dec, 2010

Mother load

snowing in trees

My boys are sick.  All three of them. One husband, one son, one dog.  Winter colds.  We blame it on the mall.  (Yes, we really did go to a mall!)  

I cannot be too.  Someone must care for them.  You know how it is.

Caring, nurturing, giving.  Is this not our nature? An integral part of our selves as strong and healing and natural as the river that runs down the face of the mountain, feeding the hills and valleys?

As women, perhaps our greatest strength is found not in bulk and brawn but in that quiet caring. The gentle brook that meanders through the shade of the tall trees.  Quiet force of healing.

How much of ourselves do we have to give? The spring does not go dry, though in times of drought perhaps is reduced down to a trickle and may not feed its full course.  The rains come.  The source replenished.  And we have more to give again.

We bequeath a part of ourselves to our children (two and four legged), our partners, our careers, our land and animals, our passions and art and writing, nature and gardening…   A part of our selves is lost, and a new part is found in the feeding of our souls that giving allows.  Nurture the soil and seeds grow fruit.

For each we pour forth of ourselves, our bleeding enriches, nourishes us, our land and families and dreams, fulfills us, completes us. And thus we grow like the seeds we tend.

Responses

Take care of all your family . My mother said there was two things that would fix about any thing . Chicken soap and caster oil .One would help you and the other would make you well so you didnt have to take it anymore .Hope you are all feeling better by New Years .I hate starting a new year sick .By the way my four legged family likes chicken soap any time and she never gets sick .
Something to think about

Gin,

So sorry to hear that your three boys are under the weather. That you are still well is great, but being the caregiver can be a trying job. Ask Carolyn, since that is the roll she often has played out in our family. Not my gift, as you have noted that it seems to be the woman’s. The only worse place to be than a mall, is a doctor’s office, for contacting sickness.

Love your photos and writings over the last few days. You express yourself (feelings,emotions) so clearly. I pray that your path in 2011 will lead you to a place where you can grow and nuture the boys and yourself.

I have enjoyed my conversations with you over the last couple of years, and find you to be very engaging, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Many of us feel very connected to you and your boys. You may not have the “gift of gab”, but you do have the gifts of caring and wisdom among others.

Carolyn has a dog competition with Maggie next weekend in Glen Rose, and I sure hope they do well.

I am planning to start the black-eyed peas this evening for tomorrow to ensure a good 2011 for us. A little ham, and cornbread to top it off, and a meal fit for a king and queen.

Happy New Year.

Al

Don, no doubt you were right about the chicken soup, but lucky for the boys, I have no castor oil! Have a wonderful new year, full of great changes in store for you, we all sincerely hope! We are all willing and able to help in any way we can.

And Al, I don’t know where to begin – your note is wonderful and touching. First, the boys are definately feeling better – all three. As I told Karen, I’m just behind in my writing. It is crazy how much goes through my head, if only I can find the time to put in all on paper (or computer?). I too have most sincerely enjoyed getting to know you, and sharing stories, meals, and plants! We three wish you and Carolyn a most grand new year. And good luck to Carolyn & Maggie in Glen Rose. Please let her know Gunnar and I have just started working with a trainer in Denver, though as you can imagine, I don’t get to see her often. Lots of homework will hopefully pay off. Gunnar is a handful. I’m sitting down to write more… need to finish a post I started yesterday, because what I want to write about next is… well… cold (it’s -5 at 5 pm, and dropping..). You guys be safe and warm this evening. I look foward to another year of friendship with you. Thank you for everything.

Al! What is Carolyn doing at the Glen Rose show? We have shown our Newfoundland, Willie, in obedience and also in Water Rescue, which is an Newfoundland Club of America/AKC event, and our Aussie, Cody, in obedience and also in obedience…we are also ready to trial in Rally. Would love to meet up with you all!

Al, meant to say we have shown our Aussie in Conformation and obedience!

Gin,

So far so good in 2011. The peas turned out great. Looking forward to hearing from you in 2011.

Karen,

Carolyn and Maggie are entered in Rally Advanced and Excellence. They are trying to win 10 competitions (two on the same day) or 20 wins total. So far they have done it 7 times (14 wins). It is a long process to an R.A.E. behind Maggie’s name. Maggie is a Fox Terrier so the training is involved. I am just the driver/crate handler for these events.

Your two dogs sound wonderful and gifted! We would love to meet you guys. Will you be at Glen Rose? Don’t know if you live in the DFW area, but we could also meet at the Dallas Arboretm, where we spend a lot of time volunteering.

Hi Al,

To your comment, “I am just the driver/crate handler” my husband responded, “I can relate to that!” We do live in the DFW area. We aren’t entered in Glen Rose so I’m not sure if we are going yet. I have just begun learning about rally and have started setting up courses in my back yard! Carolyn and Maggie sound like a wonderful working team! Wish them good luck for us. What shows are you planning on going to in the near future?

Karen,

Carolyn said that after Glen Rose, she and Maggie will enter the Fort Worth show in March, and the Navasota show after that. She also usually does the Dallas show in July.

Carolyn and Maggie practice on their course in the front yard, and are doing it this week to get ready for next weekend.

Some of us seem born to pour out for others. My greatest joys have been in providing a safe haven for John and helping my kids to take wing and soar. I am learning now, however, that the danger in that total giving is in losing a sense of self. That’s why your writing is so important, Gin. And it’s so wonderful. Thank you for sharing your gift and your wisdom with us all.

food for our soul,
the gift of giving…
mothering, sharing, nurturing
our partners, children, four leggeds, the earth.

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